Warning: Your Kids Are Likely to Turn Out A Lot Like You

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It can be very discouraging to watch your children veer away from the values you hold dear and embrace those of their peers. Most parents are surprised to see just how temporary those meanderings are. Informed parents can take hope and not get distracted by those short-term detours.

Several years ago a group of researchers were interested in measuring just how much teens were influenced by the respective values of parents and of friends. They found a fairly large group of ...

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The Power of Mommy Blogs

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My two older sons, Trevor and Christopher, are very competitive. They married eight months apart, had their first daughters two months apart, and their sons six days apart. Easter did double duty as a birthday party for the boys and let us enjoy some time together as extended family.

As we stood or sat preparing Easter dinner in the kitchen I enjoyed eavesdropping on my daughters-in-law. They discussed their experiences with friends coast-to-coast that were—or still are—in a quandary about whether ...

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Respect and Response-ability

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No, this is not a spin-off of a Jane Austen novel, nor an example of Common Core’s new spelling methods gone awry. It is a discussion of the connection between parents respecting their children enough to let them experience the consequences of the decisions, and helping them to develop the capacity to manage whatever life throws at them.

Michael Popkin, PhD defines responsibility as “the ability to respond to challenges and opportunities” that a teen will likely encounter throughout life.

So how ...

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It Takes Courage to Raise Courageous Kids

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It takes courage to be a teen.

Courage is not the absence of fear but the confidence to take a known risk for a known purpose. It takes courage for a teen to work at making good friends, trying out for a school play, or telling an adult where they might be mistaken on an important issue. With each of those attempts come big risks—risks that might not pay off in obvious ways. So a teen has to have a good ...

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It Takes Courage to Be a Kid

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I was fourteen years old when I saw Robert eat the baby mouse.

He and his friends found five nearly-naked rodents under a hay bale outside of Midway Junior High and dared each other to eat one. I watched from a distance as Robert excitedly took the dare and collected five dollars for his “courageous” behavior. Even then, I was more repulsed and engrossed by his thought process than by the actual deed. The only thing clear was that he was ...

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